Insensitivity.

And so, without much fanfair, the SAFAC ammunition course is over...
... and I'm now officially an Ammo Spec...

So many things happened over the 4 months we were together, from friends, to cliques, to foes...

I always thought that relational politics belonged to the realm of females and prancing divas. But I realized that politics is an inevitable part of a group-mentality...

One person doesn't like the other person because of his mannerism,
Another doesn't like the other because of his looks,
Another doesn't like the other because of his interest...

I mean, its ok if you don't want to be friends... but taking it beyond the edge and rallying a group to call that single guy - an enemy?...
sometimes, it's really beyond me why anybody would want to do that...

people always ask me why I always choose to play the neutral party... why don't I take a side? and stand with it?
Why do I talk to them when I talk to their enemy as well?

I mean... this entire group is made up of 100% guys you know...

... Couldn't... Shouldn't guys behave in a more... tolerant manner?

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sigh... I don't even know if I actually made any true friends throughout my four-month long ATT course... because everybody there is always living in fear that another "friend" will betray or give them a stab in their back!...

why?...

Some people are just extremely temperamental, so let them be!
If they glare, they rant, they rave, they insult, they accuse and humiliate, the only person who would be at the losing end would be you - if you become angry.

Some people are just plain lazy, so let them be!
If you take the matter into your own hands, not only will you be unable to reach a solution, you'd find yourself another enemy!

Some people are just... less intelligent, so let them be!
If you become agitated at their slow learning curve, true, they'd be hurt, but it can't solve anything either. You can't improve intelligence by scolding and insulting another person!

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why?

why do people do all these things?

Does it improve your stature? Does it make you more charismatic?
The answer is - superficially.
Yes!
Superficially it increases your stature - people will be afraid to offend you, people will be scared to do something wrong in your presence, people will be subservient to you. HOWEVER, no one would ever want to be your friend just due to your volatile nature alone!
Yes!
Superficially it increases your charisma - people will want to listen to you, out of fear. Is it real charisma? No way!

I just feel so sad that a potentially great group of friends are torn apart perpetually by just a few people...



.... i guess in society, you meet with different kind of people all the time. However, some people are just, sadly born with a lower sensitivity then others....
With tongues like scalpels and breath like fire.

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I just feel sad that such people don't even know their own shortcomings...

They continue to mingle in society like that is the way its suppose to be..

These people will find that, one day, when they need friends, they will find none. When they want family, they'll find a broken and shattered rose.



I don't think the ATT course taught me any skills worth remembering for life, but the people there did.

And I for one, am glad that its over...